WHAT IT TAKES TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP
Every relationship has its own challenges and in reality, challenge is like someone trying to calculate mathematics and having a test on english,but the result of the calculation and test is what really counts. whatever the case or situation,life is full of challenges, and there are various kinds of challenges e.g challenges in marriage,parenting,life challenges, social issues.in the same way,human beings cannot occupy the same space=like a home or office.without transgressing and offering others,that is why families,work places,churches,schools and neighborhoods can become hotbeds of human conflict and suffering.
In reality humans can be messy and hurtful.we don’t really want to be that way, we don’t intend harm,but most of us have caused and received many relational injuries.We have all one way or the other insulted or injured our parents, siblings,spouse ,children and a lot of other people.
With every challenge comes forgiveness.We have to forgive and forget and that is the only way we can overcome some challenges .The ‘result for challenges and forgiveness is simply a decision to let go of our regrets and our own view or justice.so getting rid of your partner does not get rid of the problem you have ,because half of the “problem” is yours . You can walk out on your relationship, but you can’t run away from yourself, no matter how hard you try! Rather than blaming each other, couples can learn how to work as a team and coach each other through the troubled times and power struggles.
In order to avoid any kind of regrets or challenges in a relationship we must :
- Learn to forgive others
- Learn to deal with physical distance in marriage
- we must try to resolve what ever conflict we have .sleepless nights,headaches,stomach pain can all result from unresolved conflict at work
- try not to be a workaholic, so that your kids will not miss you and you will see them often
- No matter what situation you find yourself into,you must learn to love your partner.